Welcome!
My name is Sam Jolman and I may be a descendent of pirates. My last name is dutch for sailor. The Jol (or Yawl) boat was a cousin to the Yacht. And the first peg leg swashbuckler ever was a guy named Cornelius Jol. While I’ve been known to be a bit salty and curse like a sailor from time to time, I live marooned in landlocked Colorado with no sailors life for me. I’ve found a few other trades to work.
I am a therapist and an author who helps people get life back. And by that I mean I want you to get your heart back. Because the heart is where all life happens. I fully believe that life is a journey of the heart served by the mind.
Yes, you’ve got the organ in your chest thumping away its rhythm, pumping blood to keep you alive. But you have the other heart, the center of your desires, the place you dream and desire, love and hurt. That’s the real you, the truest you. And that heart is worth your attention.
I write to get to the heart of things. I focus on sexual wholeness, trauma recovery, and the Christian story of life. Because if we don’t get to the heart of things, nothing really matters. I hope my writing helps you find your heart again too.
I write a lot about the heart of healthy sexuality, especially male sexuality. Because I believe a man’s sexuality, even more than his spirituality, is the most neglected part of his life. And when our dominant picture of a sexual man is the male sex addict, we lost the heart of male sexuality. God meant something really good when he made men’s sexuality and blessed it in Eden. We haven’t lost that original blessing but it’s buried in the fall of man and in your story too. I want to help men recover the virile and alive sexuality.
As a therapist, I get the wild privilege of sitting in a front row seat on the lives of many people. The human heart is an absolute thing of wonder. It’s always amazing to watch the real drama of human love and living unfold. After 20 years of doing this, themes emerge that start to make greater sense. I try to bring those here.
Because of this seat, I also talk about trauma recovery a lot too. I have my master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was trained in narrative focused trauma care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. This attachment based, story focused approach to trauma recovery honors the extravagant design of the human heart.
Why subscribe? And Do I Use A.I.?
I work hard to bring you quality and helpful writing. And rest assured, I have never and will never use Artificial Intelligence (AI) to create or develop my writing. Spellcheck is the farthest I go in computer generated support and I kinda hate that too.
Every subscriber gets a free chapter of my book The Sex Talk You Never Got and a copy of the official Study Guide in your Welcome email. I also do my best to answer any and all reader comments. You all ask such good observations and rich questions. I always appreciate the invitation to talk.
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Thank you for reading. I look forward to the conversations we have together.
