Hi, I’m Evie.
Welcome to Heartbreak is Hard. My weekly publication about love, relationships and dating in mid-life.
Back in 2017, I was going through it.
I discovered some major issues in my marriage that completely floored me, and at the time, with young children and a stack of daddy issues rising to the surface, I didn’t know where to turn. I felt like I was going to explode.
So, I began to write.
I wrote about everything I was feeling, I wrote letters I’d never send, I wrote down my deepest darkest thoughts and secrets, I wrote out all my rage, fury and devastation. I let it all out, processing the demise of my marriage and unpacking of trauma in real time, right there on the laptop screen.
And one day, I hit publish. The cathartic feeling was unreal. But something else happened. People all over the world started replying.
‘Me too’ they said.
‘I thought I was the only one who struggled with this’ they said.
‘I feel seen’ they said.
I had no idea this would happen. I honestly just wanted a way to process what I was going through and feel like I’d told someone, even if it was strangers on the internet. But, as it turns out, I wasn’t the only one who needed this.
I started writing about my experiences to help me process what going on in my life.
I keep writing because sharing our stories creates human connection. And when you’re going through it, like I was back in 2017, it’s human connection that saves us.
It certainly saved me.
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Heartbreak is Hard is a weekly collection of stories, reflection and personal insights about life, love, relationships and dating in mid-life. We cover everything from first dates after separation, working through relationship baggage when finding new love, navigating and getting comfortable with single life, juggling parenting, and the nuances of heartbreak and relationship grief.
I like to explore the grey areas in the experience of life and create space for more than one emotion at a time. We’re complex creatures and our intimate relationships shouldn’t be reduced to a list of ‘5 things to do on a first date’ or ‘What’s your love language’.
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