Archive - Unsolicited Advice from Mia Schachter

Is all sexual assault and rape committed intentionally, by bad people?

Are all bad things done on purpose by bad people?

4 hrs ago • Unsolicited Advice

M asks: What does a sense of self feel like?

M asks: I recently read something from you and you wrote something like: you need clear boundaries and a strong sense of self or something like that.

Jun 8 • Unsolicited Advice

When victimhood becomes your identity, healing can be terrifying because you don't know who you are without your trauma.

What would you like to ask a consent educator?

Jun 4 • Unsolicited Advice

May 2026

Boundaries + Consent for People Pleasers

May 18 • Unsolicited Advice

The Down Side of Being a “Thank You for Telling Me” Person

And that time I was called a greedy bitch.

May 13 • Unsolicited Advice

Going from, "Is this right?" to, "Do I like it?"

A NON-HIERARCHICAL, CONSENT-BASED APPROACH TO ART-MAKING

May 11 • Unsolicited Advice

I asked myself, "Am I a man?"

Hating men isn't going to get us out of this.

May 7 • Unsolicited Advice

April 2026

If I’m confident that I’m a good person with good intentions, hurting you becomes a learning opportunity, not a character indictment

C asks: I really appreciated your most recent Substack, and it also left me with the question: What if feelings came up for your partner in the…

Apr 29 • Unsolicited Advice

We found a line because we crossed it: How to repair after a sexual breach of trust in a committed relationship

Apr 24 • Unsolicited Advice

In the wake of CNN's "rape academy" article, some tips for safer dating

Green flags about consent

Apr 22 • Unsolicited Advice

I can’t be saying one thing when I mean another and then punishing others for not reading my mind.

On the inadvertent infantilization of women post-#metoo

Apr 16 • Unsolicited Advice

Myths for artists to bust + perfectionism in your art

Finding your voice as an artist

Apr 10 • Unsolicited Advice