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I Write Out Loud: Wry Cultural Memoir from a Life in Mid-flight

Storytelling as an audacious act during trying times.

Feb 2 • Dana DuBois

I Write Out Loud

The Father I Got vs. The Father Dementia Gave Me

What happens when the man who scared you becomes the man who needs you?

Jun 15 • Dana DuBois

My Child Came Out as Genderfluid. Then They... Went Back In

We need to normalize gender exploration as a part of coming of age.

Jun 10 • Dana DuBois

I'm Not Proud of My Child for Coming Out

Gender is only the beginning of all that they are…

Jun 9 • Dana DuBois

I’m Filled with Pride for My Genderfluid Child

This Pride month I celebrate Nico, for challenging norms on the path to discovering who they are.

Jun 8 • Dana DuBois

America Isn't "Under-Babied." It's Motherless.

Dr. Oz wants us to make more babies. But a country that refuses to protect women shouldn't be surprised when women hesitate to raise children inside it.

Jun 1 • Dana DuBois

How I Learned Not to Date Down

I thought I could spare myself heartache by settling. I was wrong.

May 25 • Dana DuBois

I Miss "Annika"

On gender transition, grief, acceptance, and learning which parts of parenting were never mine to keep.

May 24 • Dana DuBois

It Took Only 8 Days Till He Came For Our Trans and Nonbinary Kids

I am livid. But I’m not surprised.

May 18 • Dana DuBois

Happy Mother's Day to All the Moms. Just the Moms.

Because moms deserve one day that doesn’t center the needs of others.

May 10 • Dana DuBois

16 Things I Learned Helping My Daughter Choose a College

What I got wrong, what college really costs, and what actually matters in the process

May 8 • Dana DuBois

My Daughter Was Looking for a College. I Was Looking for a Way Out.

Colleges tours in Ireland made me question everything--especially America.

May 4 • Dana DuBois

All GenX Dating Is Grief

Compatibility isn't chemistry. It's whether your griefs can coexist

Apr 27 • Dana DuBois

Dana DuBois | I Write Out Loud

Dana DuBois | I Write Out Loud

Memoir and cultural essays about love, politics, parenting, and midlife selfhood. New and old work gathered into one living practice of writing out loud — using art and storytelling to reclaim power in chaotic times.

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Sunday Salon: Behind-the-Scenes Parenting Gender Non-Conforming Kids

Sunday Salon #10 of the I Write Out Loud project--now with my brand new tattoo!

Jun 14 • Dana DuBois

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Parenting & Pride in Trump Times

Episode #30 of the I Write Out Loud project

Jun 11 • Dana DuBois

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Sunday Salon: 🚩Red Flag Round Up! 🚩

Sunday Salon #9 of the I Write Out Loud project: a conversation about boundaries, online dating, Substack trolls, and why women are still trained to…

Jun 7 • Dana DuBois

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We're Not Under-Babied. We're Motherless | The Podcast

Episode #29 of the I Write Out Loud project

Jun 5 • Dana DuBois

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Sunday Salon: Grief Is an Erratic, Unfair Beast

Sunday Salon #8 of the I Write Out Loud project was an unexpected detour into heartbreak, trust, and the stories we tell ourselves about moving forward

May 31 • Dana DuBois

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How I Learned Not to Date Down | The Podcast

Episode #29 of the I Write Out Loud project

May 29 • Dana DuBois

1:39:52

Sunday Salon: Protecting Trans Kids and the Backstory of My Last Few Weeks

Sunday Salon #7 of the I Write Out Loud project

May 25 • Dana DuBois

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Protecting Our Trans and Nonbinary Kids | The Podcast

Episode #29 of the I Write Out Loud project

May 23 • Dana DuBois, Chris Resists, and Rachel @ This Woman Votes

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Mother's Day, My Dying Cat, and the Choices We Make | The Podcast

Episode #28 of the I Write Out Loud project

May 15 • Dana DuBois

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My Daughter Was Looking for a College... | The Podcast

Episode #27 of the I Write Out Loud project

May 8 • Dana DuBois

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Sunday Salon: Dating & Grief

Sunday Salon #7 of the I Write Out Loud project

May 3 • Dana DuBois

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All GenX Dating Is Grief | The Podcast

Episode #26 of the I Write Out Loud project

Apr 30 • Dana DuBois

Red Flag Round Up

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🚩Red Flag Round Up 🚩with Dana DuBois: Is He Stalking Me, or My Daughter??

An intro message from a stranger who knows where my kid performs, isn’t looking for anything serious, and wants credit for being “careful.”

Mar 3 • Dana DuBois

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Red Flag Round Up with Dana DuBois: Meet Marvin the Man!

When a man opens with “Hello! I am a man!” then you know the chaos is about to begin.

Dec 15, 2025 • Dana DuBois

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🚩Red Flag Round Up 🚩with Dana DuBois: What's Wrong With Ralph?

A man on the apps negs me, contradicts himself, comments on my boobs, and demands answers. Reader: I did not give him answers.

Dec 7, 2025 • Dana DuBois

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Dana’s Online Dating Derp of the Week: Lloyd the Neg

A Gen-X feminist fields reports from the trenches of app-based heterosexuality.

Nov 30, 2025 • Dana DuBois