Something that really frustrates me within the “Christian” “trad” space is a harmful idea that the key to a happy marriage is for women to simply suck up their feelings and not voice their concerns or needs to their husbands, as I’ve been writing lately:

Naturally, this message isn’t always conveyed outright, but often implied by “helpful” ma…

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I wanted to take a second and make sure that if you’ve signed up for Created Female’s inner circle, you are part of the Telegram group.

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I get a very common comment from ladies who follow my main page, A Homemaker’s Manifesto, and it concerns me.

The comment is usually some version of, “I’m really still unlearning a lot of feminism in my relationship.”

When pressed to elaborate, women usually mean that they have a hard time just being quiet and submissive and cheerful all the time, like a terrible caricature of so-called “biblical womanhood.”

The truth? There was a time when I could relate tot his, when my views were decidedly more legalistic and fundamentalist.

This was when I viewed the role of women in society as performative, rather than inherent and organic. Having emotional needs, disagreeing with your husband, feeling critical about men, or saying anything “negative” to someone else feels, to a dysregulated system poorly interpreting Christianity, like “rebellion.”

Now, to be clear: Scripture calls Christian women to certain very holy and good standards that it is good for us to strive for.

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Yet that striving occurs within the context of submitting our thoughts to Christ, not using our own (non-existent) power to overcome our flaws.

Your femininity is not a flaw.

When your husband is doing something that upsets you, or you disagree with him, or you find yourself angry about male abuse of women in the world at large…

This does not mean you haven’t fully deprogrammed from feminism. At least, not exactly.

The issue isn’t that you still “think like a feminist” because you have feelings that you sometimes urgently need to express.

The issue is that you are trying to suppress unresolved emotional wounds with spiritual performance, and have no idea how to express your feelings or handle them in a way that feels safe to your nervous system.

The truth is, you are still operating the same way a feminist — and anyone else with a disordered worldview — operates, in one specific way: trying to fix yourself through self-powered striving rather than healing.

Let me explain:

You could have the most solid, Christ-aligned-on-paper values about morality and theology, and still be very much stuck in a “works-based” mentality.

You’re striving to prove that you’re a “biblical woman,” or you’re striving to cover your sins with performative “biblical woman” behavior.

In the realm of so-called “biblical womanhood,” women are often taught to look with skepticism on their feelings and to focus on cold, hard, morally righteous obedience instead.

There is so much theological truth to the concept of choosing to obey God over your own heart; this is the lifelong sanctifying process of being saved, 100%.

But acknowledging feelings is not the same as letting them lead — it’s how we bring them to Christ’s feet to be healed.

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The nuance is in the fact that stigmatizing your feelings as wrong does not make them go away. Suppression doesn’t produce holiness. It produces infection.

Consider this analogy to illustrate:

Imagine you had a wound, and instead of examining it, cleaning it out, and treating it with medicine, you tried to cover it up. When the pain got unbearable and infection festered, you angrily rubbed a harsh abrasive in it, trying to scrape away the pain, then covered it up again.

Each time you wrapped it up more tightly, each time the infection oozed out and began to stink, it was worse. You’d be locked in a never-ending and ever-worsening cycle of resenting something for not healing as you refused to treat it.

Our feelings are the same way. As they flare up, it’s a sign that something in our heart is amiss, that there is a wound there — likely one we’ve been neglecting to treat and that has been festering for a long time.

The problem is not that you have feelings; the problem is that you are trapped in a false binary between suppression and pride.

You think your only options are to silence yourself or to explode.

This is a familiar pendulum swing to many women who have experienced trauma, heartbreak, and disordered family life in childhood.

You’re either burying your needs because you’ve learned that it’s safer not to express them, or you’re desperately trying to fulfill your needs through ineffective means, like arguments, passive aggression, resentment, bitterness, or fleshly pursuits like social media scrolling or substances.

The truth is that your basic needs as a human being are totally valid.

This does not mean it’s guaranteed that someone else is going to fulfill them for you.

It does mean that you can rest in the truth that Christ fully understands why you long for perfect love and validation from other human beings.

This is a fully embodied experience — a radical shift you can feel in your body as your nervous system calms, your reactions soften, and your heart begins to trust again. You feel it in your real, lived experience as a woman… and most of all, in the way you experience your emotions.

This is the heart of the work we do here at Created Female, and I’m barely scratching the surface as to how we move into this healthier relationship with our emotions.

If you’re ready to stop covering wounds and start healing them, we’re going to be talking about real, tangible steps you can take to bring about this shift in your own experience inside The Well, our private Telegram space for Created Female’s inner-circle students.

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When God created mankind, He created us male and female.

We tend to take this for granted and don’t give it much thought. The human species, as well as many other species on earth, comes as either male or female.

Yet none of the other creatures were made male and female in His image.

In the natural world, as well as mankind, we accept a simple, fundamental truth: the male and female of the species interact and work together and procreate to produce young (i.e., “fruit”).

What this looks like varies widely depending on the species, but in the human family, we can be assured that the way we interact and relate is by God’s design.

It is certainly a result of the Fall that strife exists between men and women, but it is not a result of the Fall that men and women are different and serve different roles in human relationships, often (especially in our modern age) when we don’t even notice it.

The following series is based on what I’ve gleaned from my favorite books on relationships and male/female design, all of which are listed here if you’re interested in these titles.

But you can see much of what we’re about to discuss in regular, everyday life, in common tropes we all know to be true in the way male and female human beings relate to one another, in novels, movies, sitcoms, popular music, and in our most intimate relationships.

It is also based squarely on objective Christian truth that accepts that we were made male and female in the image of our Creator.

Also, much of what I’m about to say is a very broad generality about the differences between men and women: human beings are incredibly complex and have many different temperaments.

Relationships between men and women are not unlike pregnancy and childbirth; so many women have similar experiences that other women don’t have at all. While heartburn, swollen feet, bizarre cravings, vivid dreams, and heartburn are all very common, plenty of women never experience these things, but may struggle with plenty of other symptoms and experiences that still a great many women would relate to.

In the same way, many men have personalities and traits that are very similar to the husbands of many women, like leaving their socks on the floor and being obsessed with sports, while other men are clean, neat, and responsible, but may still be similar to the “Type B” group in many purely masculine traits, like processing emotional information in a very different way than women do.

This is a general guide to help you understand more about men and how they relate to us, as women, to demystify a lot of confusing habits men can have and encourage healthier communication and more stable relationships.

This is by no means a set of instructions for how to treat the men in your lives, how to fix them, or how to get your way.

It is an invitation to consider how men think and operate for the sake of being a kinder, more compassionate, and wiser woman.

Let’s dive in:

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I think one of the biggest and saddest misconceptions about the human body, from a Christian perspective, is that it’s actually not flawed.

I know, this probably sounds weird, but bear with me:

When mankind was created, God declared us to be “good,” along with the rest of His creation.

He put us in a garden where we would have access to everything we neede…

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I am writing to let you know that after prayerful consideration, I have decided to resume regular posting here on Created Female.

Within the next two days, all posts should be accessible to anyone who had previously signed up for a paid membership, and new upgrades should be accessible as well.

Here’s some of the content we will be building…

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Hey friends,

I wanted to let you all know I am going to be pausing ongoing content here on Created Female, and moving the page over to private for everyone who has a paid subscription.

All the teachings will be available forever to anyone who currently has a paid subscription or signs up for one before November 31.

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Hello, ladies, and welcome to our latest deep dive into created femininity.

We’re exploring how peace in one woman’s body can reorder her entire household.

You’ll learn what neuroscience and Scripture both reveal about the way a woman’s nervous system shapes the emotional climate of her home — how tone, breath, and posture can either signal safety or spread tension — and how embodied trust restores order in marriage, motherhood, and faith itself.

For members, this week’s full teaching goes deep into:
✨ The science of co-regulation and relational safety
✨ Why the feminine nervous system is designed for receptivity
✨ How modern life keeps women in chronic fight-or-flight
✨ Practical tools to restore order and peace in your body — and your home

After reading, you can join the shared practice in our private Telegram circle, where women are reflecting together and bringing this work into daily life.

🤍 Continue below this month’s lesson — Embodied Healing in Relationships.

The Atmosphere of a Woman

When God created woman, it was so that man would not dwell alone. This is not only a powerful spiritual truth, but something that is reflected deeply in our hard-wired biology as well.

The human body is never isolated from those around it. Each moment, your nervous system is reacting to its environment. Our external reality and internal thoughts relay information about whether or not we are feeling safe, or on alert.

The female body, meanwhile, is designed to be attuned to relationships and environment and is a remarkably sensitive instrument. Her calm can settle a room; her tension can set the whole house on edge. Modern neuroscience only affirms what Scripture and common sense already knew: that the interior life of a woman can powerfully shape the emotional climate around her.

The proverbs about what it’s like to live with a “contentious woman” are not actually outdated, archaic sexism, they’re a powerful indication of the impact a woman can have on her household members.

The truth of stress and anxiety are that they are not merely personal moral failures; they’re actually physiological realities.

Your facial muscles, tone of voice, and breathing pattern communicate directly to the nervous systems of others. When you speak from a body at rest, your family’s bodies sense that rest. When you rush or brace, their heart rates and breathing unconsciously quicken to match yours. If you’re a mother, you’ve probably experienced this first-hand in the way your newborn can sometimes absorb your mood.

The home is an ecosystem of nervous systems, and the woman — by virtue of her relational design — is its primary regulator. You set the tone. This shouldn’t be heard as a guilt-ridden directive to “do better,” it’s a testament to your power and influence in your household.

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I have seen and experienced first-hand what I believe is an epidemic faith crisis among modern Christian women.

We believe with our heads that Christ is Lord, and we yearn with our whole hearts to serve Him and glorify Him in all that we do.

Yet despite this genuine faith, our daily experience is often marked by anxiety, self-doubt, and emotional exhaustion.

The more we try to “do it right,” to do the right things, study the right things, say the right things, the more our anxiety grows that we’re just getting something wrong.

If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you’ve experienced this state of nervous system dysregulation.

Your body is constantly on alert as the tension between what you believe in your mind and feel in your body can be crippling.

In truth, this tension is not a sign of weak belief.

It is a nervous system survival pattern that Christ came in part to teach us to re-learn.

The disconnect between intellectual belief and a more fully embodied faith must be addressed with more than mere words, but rather by allowing our full body to participate in our daily work and meditation on faith.

Let’s dive in.

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So many women today are carrying far more than they’re designed to, this is a fact.

You can even see it in the heaviness of the way they carry their bodies, and certainly hear it in the anxieties and concerns they express with an air of a woman who believes she is helpless and also required to take care of everything.

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A lot of women wonder how they can be feminine in a world that largely expects them to “be masculine.”

The truth is, we’re working with a poor definition of what femininity is.

To be feminine is NOT to assume characteristics you don’t currently possess.

It’s to live in alignment with how God created you.

A lot of Christians are used to hearing the concept of “masculine and feminine energy” from new age spaces, and the truth is that there is such a thing, but the truth is, Christianity is a historical and literal truth, which means God created anything anyone would observe as “masculine and feminine energy” and we see in nature this is a real thing.

It is a gross insult to the creation of woman — the crowning glory of the glory of creation, man — as a mere, dirty, “bad” creature who must be conformed to a set of external behaviors she assumes.

The Gospel restores us to how God made us, which was good.

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What is “not-good” is for man to dwell alone, and so God created woman.

What is “not-good” is to listen to the luring question, “Did God really say?”

This shows up in our personal lives in “our relationship with the masculine” in the form of fear.

“I want to submit to God’s plan for my life, but what if I don’t get what I want?”

“I want to submit to my husband/to a husband one day, but what if he sins or is hurtful to me?”

“I want to be faithful to my responsibilities, but what if it makes me less feminine to earn money?”

“I want to be a wife and homemaker one day, but what if I pursue a degree and get a career?”

These are each, either literally or generally, examples of questions I get each day, and reflective of my own state of mind so often when I experience the universally human battle between our will and God’s own.

As women, the lie that an external force can undermine how God created us as female is actually an exact replica of the same “did God really say?”-type question.

Simone de Beauvoir, one of both the most radical and notable feminists of the 20th century and the woman we have to think for the concept that “gender is a social construct,” famously said that “one is not born, but rather becomes a woman.”

If Christianity is objectively true which the Christian professes wholeheartedly that it is, this statement is the direct opposite of the truth about women.

Genesis 1:27 tells us that mankind was created male and female.

So often, as we struggle with insecurity or discomfort with our own womanliness, we are operating from a place of deep-seated and somatic doubt that God made us sufficiently female to be a “real woman.”

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Nervous system healing is having a *moment* right now, as you may have noticed. I get questions on Instagram whenever I mention it.

You’ve probably seen reels about “regulating your nervous system” or “coming out of fight or flight.”

But here’s the truth: this is no modern biohack.

It’s just a modern way of naming somethin…

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Hey ladies,

I have part one of a new lesson posted in the Telegram chat right now for members.

This is a powerful exercise on re-filtering messages we receive regarding “biblical womanhood,” whether that be online, in literature, church, or whatever source you have been impacted by over the years.

This does not just pertain to “biblical womanhood,” either, but any picture or vision of what being a “good wife” or “feminine woman” or “high-value woman” or what have you.

Overall, this is addressing the root cause of lies we believe about ourselves, beginning with how we view ourselves based on other people’s messages.

This is a simple exercise, with powerful results if you take the time to slow down, notice your thoughts, and recalibrate the measure you use to determine you own worth.

Please, if you are able, take the time to read the prompts, meditate or journal the answers, and share with our Telegram group.

I am really looking forward to hearing where this exercise takes you before we move on to part two.

Are you ready? Upgrade to paid or just keep scrolling to access the lesson and discussion in the Telegram chat:

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There’s a really powerful reason behind why tracking our cycle actually opens our minds up to a much healthier relationship with our feminine design.

You see, if we approach femininity with the mentality that our emotions or our bodies are in the way of helping us become the woman we want to be, we will always be disappointed and dissatisfied with ourselves, which actually very much enhances and exacerbates emotional and physical stress!

On the other hand, if we approach the way we experience emotions and the way our bodies change and our hormones fluctuate throughout the month from a place of peace with how God made us, we will find so much more peace and wisdom in how to better “manage” the more difficult, painful aspects of being a woman.

Let’s dive in:

Note: This post is for members of our private coaching circle, which is available for all paid subscribers!

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I wanted to kick things up a notch and invite you all to really challenge yourselves to reshape how you view masculinity.

The reason this is so significant is actually not primarily because we want to get along with men.

In fact, when this is our motivation, whether that be within our relationships or in our desire to have a relationship with a man, we are often subconsciously reinforcing our wounded ideas about men to begin with.

Here’s what I mean:

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Good morning, dear sisters!

I wanted to make sure that those of you who have signed up for a paid subscription are aware of and have access to the discussion group in Telegram.

First, you will need to download Telegram, which you can do on either your phone or desktop computer.

Then, follow the link at the bottom of this email to join the discussion. You will need to request access to join (a security measure to ensure privacy), but I will likely approve within 24-48 hours if you have a paid subscription.

Once you’re in, there are four channels there, but make sure to check the pinned messages at the top of the #General discussion to listen to a special guided scripture meditation I’ve created. There are also a number of voice messages I recorded to help orient you to the group and its central paradigm.

Once you’ve gotten oriented, please take a moment to introduce yourself or feel free to dive right in with any questions, comments, or prayer requests you may have for the group.

If you are not yet signed up for a paid subscription, scroll down to upgrade and join in today! We’d love to have you.

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Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing….stop.

Take a deep breath.

Notice how it feels in your body. Notice where the tension is in your shoulders, neck, lower back, or stomach.

What happens when you begin to think again about what you have to do today, what to make for dinner, if you’ll have time for a workout, how you’l…

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Begin your feminine healing journey TODAY in our private community

I am delighted to announce the grand re-launch of our private group coaching community here on Created Female.

I have prayed and meditated for a long time on how to best serve the needs of this space, with privacy and utility being two of my chief concerns.

Starting today, a paid subscription to Created Female will give you access to a private Telegram group coaching chat where I will be uploading regular teachings, prayers, and meditations on Christ-centered femininity wellness.

I will be walking you through my unique approach to created feminine embodiment from a devoutly Christian lens. This is an organic, Spirit-led approach to confronting our disordered thought patterns and worldly ways of thinking to more fully integrate our Christian worldview with our daily way of living.

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If you have opted in for a paid subscription in the past, you can choose whether or not to continue.

If you are new to the community or would like to upgrade today, please scroll on down to sign up and get instant access to the Telegram coaching channel.

Also, please note that I am also available to work with you on a 1-on-1 basis. Send me a DM via Substack or Instagram to learn more about booking a call or monthly individual mentorship where we can work more closely and dig much deeper to help you work through things like:

• Past trauma

• Deprogramming from feminism

• Negative thought patterns

• Difficulties in marriage or with men

• Overthinking

• Nervous system regulation

• Struggles with contentment

• Cycle-breaking in parenting

• Healthy habits and productivity

• Overwhelm

I am truly so excited and blessed to have you all here in this community and cannot wait to get to know you more.

Please upgrade today and/or scroll down to get instant access to the Telegram group and to listen to today’s reflection on femininity, healing, and surrender to the Lord and join in a powerful meditation exercise to find peace in the midst of whatever storm you may be facing.

Blessings!

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I am writing to let you know I am currently pausing paid subscriptions to Created Female. Up until very recently I had every intention of building a community behind the paywall here, but I need to be honest with myself and y’all that it does not appear to be the season either for myself or readers, and I get that!

I have wanted to make a…

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When I was growing up without a concrete spiritual worldview of any kind, it drove me nearly mad how perfect and beautiful nature was and how utterly incapable I seemed to be of putting sense or reason to why it stirred my heart so to perceive it.

It was as though the majesty of the sunset, the grandeur of the mountains, the peace of a gentle rain, and t…

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